There’s a phenomenon I’m seeing around me right now, and it has me concerned. Almost every conversation I’ve had over the past few weeks, whether it’s with clients, friends or even in passing, has somehow circled back to the same topic: Boundaries, or more specifically, the lack of them.
People are feeling tired, overextended, unable to hold their own limits, and end up feeling exhausted or resentful.
And I’m not excluded from this equation either. I recently went on a trip and I could feel very clearly when my energy was replenishing itself, and then just as clearly, the moments where it wasn’t. It was quite remarkable. If I wasn’t an Energy Whisperer by trade, I could have easily fallen into the pressure of people pleasing and forfeiting what I know I need to have the maximum energy to feel good.
So that’s exactly the part I want you to really hear. This process of boundary setting isn’t random, and it’s not something that just happens once in a while. The opportunities to exercise this boundary muscle show up in very specific ways, and once you start to recognize them, you begin to understand why your energy feels the way it does, and your energy shows up very clearly in your life and in the way others experience you.
So here are the 3 most frequent energy leaks:
1. When life gets busy
This leak is the one that feels the most innocent. It happens when life gets busy and everything feels easy to say yes to. Plans, invitations, things that seem harmless in the moment but slowly start to take up space. On the surface, it looks easy, breezy and fun. You don’t want to be the Debbie Downer, do you?
2. When people need you
This leak is a bit more complicated. It happens when people need you and it feels uncomfortable to say no, especially when you’re used to being the one who shows up, who holds, who takes care of things. This one is the hardest to manage because if you are a powerful woman, this is what is usually expected of you.
3. When you’re stepping up
This leak is the sneakiest. It is the leak that looks like growth on the surface, but can quietly drain you. It also happens when you are stepping into something bigger for yourself and you start overcommitting, saying yes to more than you can realistically hold because it feels aligned with the version of you that you are becoming.
There you have it – different situations, but the same result – drip, drip, drip, leak, leak, leak. Your energy starts to leak out slowly, in ways you don’t realize, through almost invisible leakages that add up over time and empty your energy tank.
I’m such a big proponent of energy preservation, containment and generation. I have experienced this firsthand, the effect that energy depletion has on my mental, emotional and physical health. No fun.
And this is exactly why last week’s ritual mattered as it was never about the rocks. It was about training your mind first and then your energy to stay where it belongs, even in those sneaky moments where it would normally cave in to saying yes when all you want to do is say no. Being a powerful woman means saying no unapologetically. A friend recently shared this golden nugget with me, “never complain, never explain.” A beaut, eh?
So let me ask you something, and be honest with yourself when you answer.
- Did you do last week’s ritual?
- Did you collect the stones, place them under your bed, and actually follow through, or did you just read it, think it was a good idea, and then move on?
There’s no judgment here, only information, because this is where a very big shift in your life has the potential to actually happen. This is your chance to get clear on your goals, your commitments and what you are actually willing to follow through on. Even when it’s simple and easy to dismiss.
If you are newly motivated to stop your energy from leaking and move towards your power, here’s last week’s ritual. When you’re done, leave a comment and tell me how it went or, if you have done it, how it’s going! Can’t wait to hear about it.
