You can tell a lot about a woman by walking into her home. Not by her taste, her decor or how much money she put into her space, but by how she actually lives in it.
Because when I walk into a space, I’m not looking at whether something is beautiful or not. Instead, if I am wearing my Feng Shui glasses that day (because I’m only evaluating a space IF you ask me), I’m reading your space, and reading it thoroughly. Think reading footnotes of a Jane Austen novel.
I’m noticing what feels settled, really juicy and fully aligned with the woman in front of me, and what feels unresolved. I also pick up on where energy feels stagnant and where it’s so active that nothing can actually land or be enjoyed.
For example, a beautiful little nook that looks perfect on paper but has a door in a non-Feng Shui-friendly position, allowing that beautiful energy to slowly seep out. And of course, my client tells me she never sits there, even though she put her heart into decorating it.
What I’ve learned in the decades of helping clients is that your home is always telling the truth about your life, even the parts you’re not fully looking at yet.
It’s easy to think of Feng Shui as something external, something you do only when something is wrong, when things feel off or when you are experiencing a real big change in your life – divorce, new baby, new home, losing a job. You get the gist. Some women also come to me when things are great on paper – great job, family, relationship, home…but something still feels off.
In reality, your environment is evolving with you in real time. It reflects where you are, what you’re holding onto, what you’re ready for, and sometimes, what you’re avoiding. Yup, I see you.
I am not ommited from this formula. When I look at my own Parisian apartment, I see the details very clearly. As it’s a furnished rental, I have had to accept certain things about the foundation of the space. On some days, my home can feel slightly in-between, like it haven’t quite caught up to who I am now. And that’s ok. I’ve learned to accept that while focusing on the corners of my space where I’ve been able to pour more love into – plants, art, little objects that have travelled with me around the word. And guess what, those areas feel more grounded, more intentional, more me than they did even a few months ago.
And as I mentioned in my last blog post, this energetic power extends way beyond the physical space. I’m intentionally surrounding myself with what makes me feel more empowered, grounded and…more like myself. This comes from the music I’m listening to, the places I’m choosing to go, the invitations I’m saying hell yes or hell no to, the books I am reading, the pace I’m allowing myself to move at. All of it is part of the same environment and influencing how I feel.
Because your environment is not static. It evolves with you or it shows you exactly where you haven’t allowed yourself to evolve yet.
And this is where most people get stuck. They wait.They wait until they feel more confident, more certain, more established before allowing their space to reflect that version of themselves. The waiting for more money, to lose weight, to finally declutter that closet. They wait until things feel “ready.”
But this is something I feel very strongly about in my work – your space is not something you arrive to, but something you grow inside of. It’s actually a necessary part of the process to get clear on where you are, then make decisions on how to adjust, refine and respond to your space as you move through your life.
So today, instead of asking yourself how to make your space look better, more polished or more put together, ask yourself this question: What is my environment showing me right now… that I haven’t fully acknowledged?
Because once you start to see it and understand what it’s saying, that’s where everything begins to shift.
